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Woman's Weight At Center Of Dating Controversy

Client Says Service Shut Her Out

POSTED: 4:16 pm EST November 3, 2005
UPDATED: 5:52 pm EST November 3, 2005

A woman looking for love instead found what she called "pure discrimination" with a local dating service.

NewsCenter 5's Amalia Barreda reported Thursday that Roberta Traynor said that the service shut her out, sight unseen, when she revealed her weight. It may sound cold-hearted, but does the service have a right to refuse a client it doesn't think it can help?

"I still would like to meet someone," Traynor said.

Too busy to meet new people and tired of the bar scene, Traynor, 39, turned to LunchDates.com to meet someone. A personal chef by profession, Traynor, 5 feet 5 inches tall, checked off medium under "build" in the Web site's membership survey.

She said she told a LunchDates counselor in a phone interview she weighed a little less than 200 pounds.

"About a half-hour later, I got a call from her, and she said, 'I'm sorry. We can't help you because you're overweight.' Just like that. I think what really upset me is that it was done strictly by numbers," Traynor said.

"If she said she was overweight, she should not have said that if she did. And she should have said something in a more tasteful way," LunchDates co-founder Marty Sack said.

Sack co-founded LunchDates in 1982. He calls it a contemporary version of an old-fashioned matchmaker, with counselors bringing people together for lunch or drinks after work.

Traynor said that she liked the personal nature of it, adding there is nothing in its Web site about weight requirements.

"I really felt it was discrimination. I mean, what if I had one arm or one foot? Are they going to tell me they can't help me?" Traynor said.

"I just don't have the people for everybody. Whether it's age or body type, religion, hobbies, if someone asked us for something we can't do we try to be honest about it," Sack said.

"I know that there have to be men out there who aren't just looking for trophy brides. You know, little skinny girls who all wear size 3," Traynor said.

"Body type can be an issue with dating. I have no control over it. I can only be as honest, as courteous and as sincere with people as I possibly can. And I'm certainly going to spend more time with my staff about it," Sack said.

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